周國賢: 時空

去旅行嘅時候個friend係車上面播歌,聽到周國賢首 Children Song 覺得幾好,於是就去搵啦佢其他歌。呢首都唔錯,唔錯都幾好其實係因為有 D 共鳴。

做決定嘅時候亦都冇可能知道將來會係點。過咗去嘅就係過咗去,時間係唔會返轉頭,我亦都返唔到過去。無憾或者就係勇敢地為自己的目標作個決定然後付諸實行,希望回望嘅時候無憾。

兩句我好鍾意嘅 Quote

Decisions are a via regia, a royal road, into a rich existential domain – the realm of freedom, responsibility, choice, regret, wishing, and willing. – Irvin D Yalom

Live as if you were living for the second time and had acted as wrongly the first time as you are about to act now – Frank Vicktor

作詞:林若寧
作曲:周國賢
編曲:周國賢
監製:周國賢.[email protected]

霓虹前這位潦倒老年 淪為時光機的配件
直到活到歲月到終點 沒有自己經典
挖苦你的少年 在倒後鏡片段裡一閃
然後人生蒸發一縷煙 被發現經已大殮

如何後悔 也知道 無從後退 能探險必需探險

明日在那裡再望向這裡  怕那一位較這一位更唏噓
一個人平行時空怎去面對
從前起身嗌反對 而如今偷偷隱退
誰記得這少年和這老年 曾天生一對
六百歲再夢見過往六歲 這一天看那一天崎嶇
才對得起當天那個小孩 無負那個小孩
曾為信仰出發不理反對

捉得到一隻蟬 誤信便會抱住這花園
懷著童真可笑的某天 立紀念碑去自勉

年年度過 怕只怕 年年白過 而據點只得句點

明日六百歲再夢見過往六歲 這一天看那一天崎嶇
才對得起當天那個小孩 無負那個小孩
曾為信仰出發不理反對

還是有生活興趣 能令你生命有趣 看盡山水

如明日在這裡你又到哪裡 有這一位替那一位作先驅
出發前無人能知選錯或對
年輪都刻進骨髓 年齡都不可倒退
無悔於這旅程 留低過程 曾衝出堡壘
六百歲再夢見過往六歲 這一生看那一生興衰
還記得今天演過這一場 無論去到終場
曾為信仰掙扎可以死去

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3 仔: 歐洲/國際漫遊流動數據儲值咭 速度 龜速

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係鴨寮街買$220一張

如果用垃圾去形容易呢張卡唔係完全講得通, 因為呢張結都勉強可以以龜速上下 Facebook, 睇吓News ,用下Google Map.. 不過真係好慢。仲要 manual 鎖定指定嘅 network 先上到網,真係煩到爆。

行左好幾次speedTest, 冇一次ping time 唔過300ms, 有時仲逼近 400ms. Downlink 係德國 好多時得 200 Kbps, 最低見過 110kbps… 有時有 5-600kbps。奧地利就好少少,有時有 1 Mbps..係德國, throughput 慢加 ping time 高搞到好多網頁都load好耐,甚至load唔到。load 外國網站就仲嚴重,ping time 可能過 600ms…

佢唯一一樣野幫到我呀就係我係旅行嘅時候完全冇意欲上網。講完。

Other Review
[1] RingHK 速度唔掂但有 Tethering.英國遊實測 – 3香港「漫遊流動數據儲值咭」 – http://www.ringhk.com/news2.php?id=10573
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2] HKEPC Forum [測試] 歐洲遊,試咗三張prepaid SIM… – http://www.hkepc.com/forum/viewthread.php?fid=44&tid=2269429
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3] 「慢到爆」3香港「歐洲」/「國際」漫遊流動數據儲值咭(加拿大篇)(see the embedded video below)

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周國賢: Children Song

呢首歌除咗好聽之外,我覺得都幾有意思,仲有 d 共嗚添。個人嘗試這樣了解:

i) 當人越大被世界(又或者因比較而要求)要求達到一個所謂成熟或成功的標準,而追求嘅事係同善良[a]、無爭[b]、堅持[c]和率性[d] 的本性(歌詞提及的小孩)相違。 這個小孩-開始被放在一旁,但到最後卻再被重視。

ii) 係心理學上,(內在)小孩可以是過去在成長的創傷和壓抑 [e] (e.g. 小大人),這些內在小孩使人壓抑自己的本性而產生多一個內在小孩 (就是 (i) 提出的那個)。這個內在小孩多被其他的小孩 suppress 的。

Disclaimer: 非專業分辨,有機會錯 🙂

周國賢: Children Song

作詞:藍奕邦
作曲:周國賢
編曲:周國賢 / 藍奕邦 / Goro Wong
監製:周國賢 / Goro Wong

還記得有多久未好好哭過嗎
還記得有多久未真心歡笑嗎
為去變一個大人 凡事也裝得很化 [e]
人海裡 比賽攀爬

人活到疲倦乏力先想起你嗎
和我再抱擁牽手哭泣可以嗎
是你這可愛兒童 仍然廝守心底裡
來給我 休憩收容

如若全世界一天一點變壞
猶幸還有你一貫爛漫姿態
而你赤裸裸脫俗如像小孩
想笑就笑要嗌就嗌 [d]

嘗試以你的率真觀賞這世間
嘗試再懶得小心分清忠與奸
讓我每當困倦時 回眸總可找到你
在心裡 不見不散

如若全世界一天一點變壞
猶幸還有你一貫爛漫姿態
而你赤裸裸脫俗如像小孩
想笑就笑要嗌就嗌

猶幸赤子心總不捨得變賣 [a]? [b]?
榮幸還有你跟我在做反派
而你赤裸裸敏銳如像小孩
跟我敵抗世界病態

想要跟你解去束縛跟作反 [d]
想要將那時候校慢
跟你不怕一哭一笑被人飽覽
先知道我若要做我其實太簡單

如若全世界一天一點變壞
猶幸還有你一貫爛漫姿態 [a]
而你赤裸裸脫俗如像小孩
跟我同行到老 想笑就笑要嗌就嗌

猶幸赤子心總不捨得變賣
榮幸還有你跟我在做反派
而你赤裸裸敏銳如像小孩
跟我敵抗世界病態

如若全世界一天一點變壞
猶幸還有你一給我力量去捱 [c]
而你赤裸裸脫俗如像小孩
跟我敵抗世界病態

長在我心中你是純淨小孩 [a][b]

報紙

我主場:周國賢 迷失.重 – http://hk.apple.nextmedia.com/entertainment/art/20160304/19515189

樂評

[1] 童心:周國賢《Children Song》|林望天 – https://manjuhk.com/2015/12/14/childrensong/

Reference

[1] 內在小孩治療法簡介 – http://elodiechang.pixnet.net/blog/post/26417065-%E5%85%A7%E5%9C%A8%E5%B0%8F%E5%AD%A9%E6%B2%BB%E7%99%82%E6%B3%95%E7%B0%A1%E4%BB%8B
[2] Wikipeida – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inner_child

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Book Report & Reflection: The Gift of Therapy – Irvin D. Yalom (1)

Gift-of-Therapy

Extracted from part of the first assignment I submitted when I was studying  Counselling Skills.

Highlights

I have read the first twelve chapters (excluding the Introduction) of “The Gift of Therapy” from Irvin D. Yalom up to this moment.

In the introduction chapter, Irvin objected the way Psychiatry was being driven to be – focus more on psychopharmacology and abandoning psychotherapy to make the theory more economical. Irvin pointed out the counter productiveness and the danger of self-fulling prophecy being brought to the less severely impaired patients if emphasis were put on a quick and precise vision-limiting diagnosis with a brief and focused therapy (Ch2).

He believed that human has an in-built force towards self-actualization and the patient will grow when obstacles were removed (Ch1) and gradual unfolding of the patient allows therapist to know the patient as fully as possible (Ch2).

Irvin seeks for a more humanly, interactive and equal way to treat his patients by admitting his errors (Ch9), letting the patient’s comment of towards his words matter to him (Ch7), being supportive (Ch5), care about the relationship between himself and his patients (Ch4) and avoid tin-can therapy and prefabricated technique (Ch10) to all clients. He is taking a more humanistic approach which takes time and is opposite to what he described the managed-care industry heading to.

Reflections

One of the good reminders I found is the diverse view of therapy hour between the client and the therapist in Chapter 6. Irvin, the therapist, thought that his client should found his interpretations of an event or thoughts described by his client most valuable. However, it turns out that his client didn’t notice his interpretation as if he hadn’t speak at all but words he doesn’t notice e.g. his apologies for being late, his compliments and his fun-making tease. It may be that these little acts make the relationship more like friendship and the support coming from this relationship is more authentic and genuine.

“I am human and let nothing human be alien to me” (Ch6) from Terence is being quoted by Erich Fromm when teaching Empathy. To expose ourselves to any kind fantasy of the patients allowed us to exercise accurate empathy. However, as every of us have our own pain and dark side that we aren’t fully aware of, this is why Irvin suggested student therapist should experience the therapeutic process (Ch12) to make those pain and dark side up in the conscious level so as to avoid displacement. Experiencing therapeutic process also allows therapists to experience as a client the things that will happen – project on to, idealize, depend on and granting power to the therapists.

To be a good counselor in the eye of one’s clients isn’t an easy task. It requires therapeutic technique to discover the issue and guide the patient through questions and sometimes challenges at the same time allows the client to experience empathy, respect and unconditional positive regards, not to say knowledge to psychology and variety of therapies – so many things to balance and think of.

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基督教倫理回應: 婚前婚外性行為

之前做 present 負責做倫理回應果一 part,嘗試用德性倫理 & 侯活士作為另一進路去回應呢個 topic。

其實呢個回應其實唔係一個直接嘅回應,雖然規條式教導比較簡單同清楚,但往往失卻信仰帶來更深入更徹底的改變,治標不治本,只能為信徒羣體在相對穩定的社會環境帶來較表面的見證。選擇以耶穌基督的故事為中心去塑造羣體的品格某程度就是放棄規條為主,藉教會群體的傳統,其宣講、聖禮及門徒操練等踐行建立信徒嘅品格從而作見證。

純粹做功課吹乜都得,但係要係信仰羣體脫離規條講品格談何容易。

我覺得香港教會不乏在聖經裏抽取有關婚前及婚外性行為的經文並加以解釋和闡述婚前及婚外性性行為是不合神喜悅的事的資料、講道和教材,為數不少的香港教會在紀律手冊裏也清楚列明婚前性行為和分內性行為的定義、聖經基礎、原則和處理方法-停止聖餐,停止事奉,接受輔導,對於不悔改者甚至逐出教會。但是還是有教徒沒有因為聖經對婚前及婚外性行為,教會的論述及規條選擇而不去發生婚前及婚外性行為,又或者能勝過性的試探。

聖經中有記名的大衛之妻有八位,還有眾多妃嬪。大衛在性上面的敗壞,不只破壞上帝一男一女的創造秩序,還有貪戀別人的妻子別示巴終把,不單與她發生婚外性行為,最後還用詭計把烏利亞殺死,並把烏利亞的妻子別巴據為己有。上帝因為這些事審判和懲罰大衞,但上帝卻稱大衛為合神心意的人,他什麼東西合神心意呢?大概不會是在婚前及婚外性行為的倫理議題上罷。

潘霍華在團契生活一書説教會是上帝的真實性在世界具體的表現,上帝透過拿單宣判大衛的罪和他所得的懲罰,大衛認罪及願意接受懲罰。雖然大衛一生犯下不小的罪,上帝卻稱大衛為合神心意的人。教會也得思想怎樣處理(處罰,教導及同行)犯了婚前及婚外性行為的弟兄姊妹才能展現上帝在世?教會怎樣處理才能使弟兄姊妹像大衞般成為合神心意的人?

要成為一個合神心意的人,不是單靠做了些什麼事,而是在於你是怎麼的一個人。做怎樣的事取決於你是一個怎樣的人,但只做怎樣的事不能幫助你成為什樣的人。或許侯話士的德性論理是另外一個進路,就是以聖經中耶穌基督的故事為中心塑造徒群體的品格藉教會群體的傳統,其宣講、聖禮及門徒操練等踐行,將耶穌基督的生命故事教導信徒。侯話士的和平和非暴力,以至聖經中其他的德性成為基督徒的德性,並「帶著獨特的視界(vision)來面對世界,成為另類的城邦」。「讓教會成為教會」,便是最有力的倫理回應及見證。

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