基督教倫理回應: 婚前婚外性行為

之前做 present 負責做倫理回應果一 part,嘗試用德性倫理 & 侯活士作為另一進路去回應呢個 topic。

其實呢個回應其實唔係一個直接嘅回應,雖然規條式教導比較簡單同清楚,但往往失卻信仰帶來更深入更徹底的改變,治標不治本,只能為信徒羣體在相對穩定的社會環境帶來較表面的見證。選擇以耶穌基督的故事為中心去塑造羣體的品格某程度就是放棄規條為主,藉教會群體的傳統,其宣講、聖禮及門徒操練等踐行建立信徒嘅品格從而作見證。

純粹做功課吹乜都得,但係要係信仰羣體脫離規條講品格談何容易。

我覺得香港教會不乏在聖經裏抽取有關婚前及婚外性行為的經文並加以解釋和闡述婚前及婚外性性行為是不合神喜悅的事的資料、講道和教材,為數不少的香港教會在紀律手冊裏也清楚列明婚前性行為和分內性行為的定義、聖經基礎、原則和處理方法-停止聖餐,停止事奉,接受輔導,對於不悔改者甚至逐出教會。但是還是有教徒沒有因為聖經對婚前及婚外性行為,教會的論述及規條選擇而不去發生婚前及婚外性行為,又或者能勝過性的試探。

聖經中有記名的大衛之妻有八位,還有眾多妃嬪。大衛在性上面的敗壞,不只破壞上帝一男一女的創造秩序,還有貪戀別人的妻子別示巴終把,不單與她發生婚外性行為,最後還用詭計把烏利亞殺死,並把烏利亞的妻子別巴據為己有。上帝因為這些事審判和懲罰大衞,但上帝卻稱大衛為合神心意的人,他什麼東西合神心意呢?大概不會是在婚前及婚外性行為的倫理議題上罷。

潘霍華在團契生活一書説教會是上帝的真實性在世界具體的表現,上帝透過拿單宣判大衛的罪和他所得的懲罰,大衛認罪及願意接受懲罰。雖然大衛一生犯下不小的罪,上帝卻稱大衛為合神心意的人。教會也得思想怎樣處理(處罰,教導及同行)犯了婚前及婚外性行為的弟兄姊妹才能展現上帝在世?教會怎樣處理才能使弟兄姊妹像大衞般成為合神心意的人?

要成為一個合神心意的人,不是單靠做了些什麼事,而是在於你是怎麼的一個人。做怎樣的事取決於你是一個怎樣的人,但只做怎樣的事不能幫助你成為什樣的人。或許侯話士的德性論理是另外一個進路,就是以聖經中耶穌基督的故事為中心塑造徒群體的品格藉教會群體的傳統,其宣講、聖禮及門徒操練等踐行,將耶穌基督的生命故事教導信徒。侯話士的和平和非暴力,以至聖經中其他的德性成為基督徒的德性,並「帶著獨特的視界(vision)來面對世界,成為另類的城邦」。「讓教會成為教會」,便是最有力的倫理回應及見證。

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Review: The Gift of being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery – Chapter 6

Chapter 6 – Becoming Your True Self

In the section “An Identity Grounded In God”, Mr. Benner said “No one born with an identity, and Jesus was no exception” to emphasis that Jesus is a fully man (although he is fully God at the same time). Thus, Jesus has to discover who he was when he was growing up.

The Bible for Protestant does not include much detail about Jesus’s childhood, expect “a few stories of visitors during infancy and the family’s movements to and from Egypt” and “his visit to the temple at age twelve” and stayed in Jerusalem “sitting among the doctors”, listening and asking questions without follow his parents to leave for home. Mr. Benner tried guessing how Jesus had grown humanly from an infant to the age of twelve.

Mr. Benner believed that Jesus, no different from other children, was “in relation to their parents”. However, Mr. Benner believed that Mary is very prominent as she was a woman “apart from all others” by quoting Luke 1:29, 42, 38 – a most blessed woman highly favored by God being selected with “standfast confidence in trustworthiness of God’s love” and willing to humbly surrenders to God’s will. Jesus learnt by witness his earthly mother Mary and internalized all these, together with the possibility of “deep conviction that he was the “Son of the most High””, “visits of the shepherds and wise men”, “prophecies of Simeon and Anna” and his family viewing him as “the promised and long-awaited savior” to Israel.

To be honest, I am less convicted of the speculation made by Mr. Benner – if this was not something recorded in Bible, I believe there could be other sensible guesses. After all, a woman “highly favour by God” does not necessarily meant that favour comes directly from her good faith. And even she has a good faith, does it necessary means that Jesus had to learn through Mary? Apart from this, can we have better or other valid guesses? Any impact if development along this chapter was build on this?

Going back to the incident at 12, when Mary found Jesus with the doctors and she expressed her emotions.

“Son, why have you treated us like this? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you.” Luke 2 v48b

Jesus replied

“Why were you searching for me?” he asked. “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?” Luke 2 v49-50

and Mary didn’t say a word and the bible said Joseph and Mary didn’t understand. What if she understood? My guess is that she would probably remember or understood without puzzling he was the Son of God? Probably she can relate this incident to what she had experienced. Let’s think this way, if we were Mary (no matter you are male or female, come on 🙂 ) and we experienced Luke 1:26-38 at their time, can we fully believe what we were experiencing? For me, I would probably doubt if I was in some kinds of mental disorders. As the story continues to unfold in Luke 1 v39 and beyond, Mary may get a bit more understanding, probably until Jesus was hanged on the cross, incinerated and resurrected she got the full picture what’s meant by the Son of God and the Savior.

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the work and effort of Mr. Benner to integrate psychology, personal growth and Christian spirituality. The Gift of Being Yourself also gives insights and reflections along the way I read it and I would recommend it, but just that there was a few points that I have some doubts and need further research.

TheGiftofBeingYourself

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耶利米哀歌 3:21-24

21 我 想 起 這 事 , 心 裡 就 有 指 望 。
22 我 們 不 致 消 滅 , 是 出 於 耶 和 華 諸 般 的 慈 愛 ; 是 因 他 的 憐 憫 不 致 斷 絕 。
23 每 早 晨 , 這 都 是 新 的 ; 你 的 誠 實 極 其 廣 大 !
24 我 心 裡 說 : 耶 和 華 是 我 的 分 , 因 此 , 我 要 仰 望 他 。

God didn’t deliver his people at the moment and in the way the author prayed. Nevertheless, the author affirmed that the never-ending mercies of Yahweh and are new in the morning. In fact, he has been delivering his people in his time since the old testament and beyond.

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Lent readings from Henri Nouwen Society (2)

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退修 x 書研 x 食

2014-04-05 14.40.35

一行四人去咗百大尼退修, 星期五晚到星期日, 斬前斬後其實只係得星期六。其實目的都係想抖抖同一齊書研,schedule 呢家嘢都係星期六早餐先 draft。早上食過早餐,回房安靜一下便是午餐,下午就是書硏,夜晚唱完歌仔之後各自回巢安靜然後去食宵夜。

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上次去百大尼都無敏感,但係今次就不停今打噴嚏,咳同眼癢,今日臨走嘅時候真係忍唔到,走咗去萬寧買咗盒抗敏藥。跟據弟兄所講,呢盒「百利通」係政府診所三寶之一。$87.9 60粒,食咗一粒唔使十五分鐘見效 😀

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睇完就算真係有d浪費,所以睇書嘅時候 jot 咗 d notes幫助自己整理下d points

書研:  團契生活 – 獨處的日子
害怕孤寂才找團契生活、害怕羣體才自己一個也是無益的
上帝呼召你的時侯你是單獨的站在他面前,單獨的跟從他的呼召、 背十架、 戰爭襑告、死去、 向上帝交賬
這個呼召卻不是單獨對你-你在蒙召者中背十架、 戰爭襑告
獨處的標誌是靜默 slience,團契的標誌是言語 speech
靜默:
  • 讓人能聽見上帝的道 – 聽道前: 讓思想放在上帝的道上;聽道後: 上帝的道仍然向我們說話,並要活在我們心裡
  • 個人在上帝之道下一種肅然起敬的態度
  • 等候上帝的話並從之得到祝福
  • 為了讀經、禱告、代襑
* 除了純然等待上帝的話外,誰也不該期待什麼
默想(讀經)
  • 共同靈修讀的是較長及連貫的經文(寬度、整全);默想卻應選用較短的經文,並盡可能一星期不加以更改(深度)
  • 跟據上帝的應許等待上帝和自己說話教導
  • 需要弄清楚經文的內容,但卻不是釋經及作聖經研究
  • 從禱告開始,但不同咬文嚼字
  • 在一個抓住我們字眼上停下來,思想,讓道進入住在我們裡面,並留下工作的果效
  • 不去尋找新觀念以致分散注意力及助長虛榮
禱告
  • 默想聖經,讓之帶領進入禱告,準備在自己的景況中領受上帝的道
  • 祈求上帝清楚指示我們今天的生活,保守我們不要犯罪,在成聖的路上長大,在工作中有力和忠心
  • 若思想不能集中,想到別的人和事,我們可把這些納入禱告中,再耐心地返回默想的起點
代禱
  • 不能為所有人代禱
  • 首先要記念那些和我們生活在一起的人
  • 信徒團契得以存活有賴於彼此代禱
    • 若為一個給我麻煩的弟兄代禱,我也不能責備、痛恨他。因在我為他禱告時變為弟兄的面孔,使我醒悟基督也是為他而死,所以他同樣是一個蒙恩的罪人
    • 代禱就是讓弟兄站在基督面前並分享祂的憐憫
  • 是思典卻又是責任
默想的考驗
  • 獨自生活在非信徒環境的時間
  • 團契生活 – 促進個人的自由、剛強和成熟 vs 叫人不能自主,只能依賴他人
  • 默想 –
    • 把人帶到上帝的真實世界,使他剛強壯膽,身心清潔以面對白天?能將上帝的話語植根在心中,叫人清醒度日,堅忍不拔,有力行善,有愛心,謙卑順服
      vs
    • 把人帶領到一個不真實的世界,以致當他回到日常生活時大吃一驚? 令人片刻飄飄欲仙,碰到現實便告消逝?

 

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