周國賢: Children Song

呢首歌除咗好聽之外,我覺得都幾有意思,仲有 d 共嗚添。個人嘗試這樣了解:

i) 當人越大被世界(又或者因比較而要求)要求達到一個所謂成熟或成功的標準,而追求嘅事係同善良[a]、無爭[b]、堅持[c]和率性[d] 的本性(歌詞提及的小孩)相違。 這個小孩-開始被放在一旁,但到最後卻再被重視。

ii) 係心理學上,(內在)小孩可以是過去在成長的創傷和壓抑 [e] (e.g. 小大人),這些內在小孩使人壓抑自己的本性而產生多一個內在小孩 (就是 (i) 提出的那個)。這個內在小孩多被其他的小孩 suppress 的。

Disclaimer: 非專業分辨,有機會錯 🙂

周國賢: Children Song

作詞:藍奕邦
作曲:周國賢
編曲:周國賢 / 藍奕邦 / Goro Wong
監製:周國賢 / Goro Wong

還記得有多久未好好哭過嗎
還記得有多久未真心歡笑嗎
為去變一個大人 凡事也裝得很化 [e]
人海裡 比賽攀爬

人活到疲倦乏力先想起你嗎
和我再抱擁牽手哭泣可以嗎
是你這可愛兒童 仍然廝守心底裡
來給我 休憩收容

如若全世界一天一點變壞
猶幸還有你一貫爛漫姿態
而你赤裸裸脫俗如像小孩
想笑就笑要嗌就嗌 [d]

嘗試以你的率真觀賞這世間
嘗試再懶得小心分清忠與奸
讓我每當困倦時 回眸總可找到你
在心裡 不見不散

如若全世界一天一點變壞
猶幸還有你一貫爛漫姿態
而你赤裸裸脫俗如像小孩
想笑就笑要嗌就嗌

猶幸赤子心總不捨得變賣 [a]? [b]?
榮幸還有你跟我在做反派
而你赤裸裸敏銳如像小孩
跟我敵抗世界病態

想要跟你解去束縛跟作反 [d]
想要將那時候校慢
跟你不怕一哭一笑被人飽覽
先知道我若要做我其實太簡單

如若全世界一天一點變壞
猶幸還有你一貫爛漫姿態 [a]
而你赤裸裸脫俗如像小孩
跟我同行到老 想笑就笑要嗌就嗌

猶幸赤子心總不捨得變賣
榮幸還有你跟我在做反派
而你赤裸裸敏銳如像小孩
跟我敵抗世界病態

如若全世界一天一點變壞
猶幸還有你一給我力量去捱 [c]
而你赤裸裸脫俗如像小孩
跟我敵抗世界病態

長在我心中你是純淨小孩 [a][b]

報紙

我主場:周國賢 迷失.重 – http://hk.apple.nextmedia.com/entertainment/art/20160304/19515189

樂評

[1] 童心:周國賢《Children Song》|林望天 – https://manjuhk.com/2015/12/14/childrensong/

Reference

[1] 內在小孩治療法簡介 – http://elodiechang.pixnet.net/blog/post/26417065-%E5%85%A7%E5%9C%A8%E5%B0%8F%E5%AD%A9%E6%B2%BB%E7%99%82%E6%B3%95%E7%B0%A1%E4%BB%8B
[2] Wikipeida – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inner_child

Book Report & Reflection: The Gift of Therapy – Irvin D. Yalom (1)

Gift-of-Therapy

Extracted from part of the first assignment I submitted when I was studying  Counselling Skills.

Highlights

I have read the first twelve chapters (excluding the Introduction) of “The Gift of Therapy” from Irvin D. Yalom up to this moment.

In the introduction chapter, Irvin objected the way Psychiatry was being driven to be – focus more on psychopharmacology and abandoning psychotherapy to make the theory more economical. Irvin pointed out the counter productiveness and the danger of self-fulling prophecy being brought to the less severely impaired patients if emphasis were put on a quick and precise vision-limiting diagnosis with a brief and focused therapy (Ch2).

He believed that human has an in-built force towards self-actualization and the patient will grow when obstacles were removed (Ch1) and gradual unfolding of the patient allows therapist to know the patient as fully as possible (Ch2).

Irvin seeks for a more humanly, interactive and equal way to treat his patients by admitting his errors (Ch9), letting the patient’s comment of towards his words matter to him (Ch7), being supportive (Ch5), care about the relationship between himself and his patients (Ch4) and avoid tin-can therapy and prefabricated technique (Ch10) to all clients. He is taking a more humanistic approach which takes time and is opposite to what he described the managed-care industry heading to.

Reflections

One of the good reminders I found is the diverse view of therapy hour between the client and the therapist in Chapter 6. Irvin, the therapist, thought that his client should found his interpretations of an event or thoughts described by his client most valuable. However, it turns out that his client didn’t notice his interpretation as if he hadn’t speak at all but words he doesn’t notice e.g. his apologies for being late, his compliments and his fun-making tease. It may be that these little acts make the relationship more like friendship and the support coming from this relationship is more authentic and genuine.

“I am human and let nothing human be alien to me” (Ch6) from Terence is being quoted by Erich Fromm when teaching Empathy. To expose ourselves to any kind fantasy of the patients allowed us to exercise accurate empathy. However, as every of us have our own pain and dark side that we aren’t fully aware of, this is why Irvin suggested student therapist should experience the therapeutic process (Ch12) to make those pain and dark side up in the conscious level so as to avoid displacement. Experiencing therapeutic process also allows therapists to experience as a client the things that will happen – project on to, idealize, depend on and granting power to the therapists.

To be a good counselor in the eye of one’s clients isn’t an easy task. It requires therapeutic technique to discover the issue and guide the patient through questions and sometimes challenges at the same time allows the client to experience empathy, respect and unconditional positive regards, not to say knowledge to psychology and variety of therapies – so many things to balance and think of.

Factors of successful therapies

Further little research on the analysis of outcome studies of therapies on the relationship factor of four area of therapeutic factors contributed to the positive change in people – this is from Michael J. Lambert in 1992.

  1. client factor / extratherapeutic change (40%), those factors that are qualities of the client or qualities of his or her environment and that aid in recovery regardless of his or her participation in therapy (i.e. factors that are not related to/ outside of the treatment);
  2.  relationship factors // common factors (30%) that are found in a variety of therapy approaches, such as empathy and the therapeutic relationship
  3. expectation / expectancy (15%), the portion of improvement that results from the client’s expectation of help or belief in the rationale or effectiveness of therapy]
  4. techniques (10%) (some says 15% [2] ), those factors unique to specific therapies and tailored to treatment of specific problems.

Remarks – Given that the session last for 50-minute once or occasionally twice a week but contributing 40%-45% of a successful therapy  …  this is far from insignificant :O

Reference

[1] Wikipedia, “Common factors theory”, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common_factors_theory (Accessed 4th Oct, 2015)
[2] Cynthia Franklin, Rowena Fong eds., The Church Leader’s Counseling Resource Book: A Guide to Mental Health and Social Problems, Oxford University Press (2011) p.173

(Extracted from part of my assignment)