Review: The Gift of being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery – Chapter 6

Chapter 6 – Becoming Your True Self

In the section “An Identity Grounded In God”, Mr. Benner said “No one born with an identity, and Jesus was no exception” to emphasis that Jesus is a fully man (although he is fully God at the same time). Thus, Jesus has to discover who he was when he was growing up.

The Bible for Protestant does not include much detail about Jesus’s childhood, expect “a few stories of visitors during infancy and the family’s movements to and from Egypt” and “his visit to the temple at age twelve” and stayed in Jerusalem “sitting among the doctors”, listening and asking questions without follow his parents to leave for home. Mr. Benner tried guessing how Jesus had grown humanly from an infant to the age of twelve.

Mr. Benner believed that Jesus, no different from other children, was “in relation to their parents”. However, Mr. Benner believed that Mary is very prominent as she was a woman “apart from all others” by quoting Luke 1:29, 42, 38 – a most blessed woman highly favored by God being selected with “standfast confidence in trustworthiness of God’s love” and willing to humbly surrenders to God’s will. Jesus learnt by witness his earthly mother Mary and internalized all these, together with the possibility of “deep conviction that he was the “Son of the most High””, “visits of the shepherds and wise men”, “prophecies of Simeon and Anna” and his family viewing him as “the promised and long-awaited savior” to Israel.

To be honest, I am less convicted of the speculation made by Mr. Benner – if this was not something recorded in Bible, I believe there could be other sensible guesses. After all, a woman “highly favour by God” does not necessarily meant that favour comes directly from her good faith. And even she has a good faith, does it necessary means that Jesus had to learn through Mary? Apart from this, can we have better or other valid guesses? Any impact if development along this chapter was build on this?

Going back to the incident at 12, when Mary found Jesus with the doctors and she expressed her emotions.

“Son, why have you treated us like this? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you.” Luke 2 v48b

Jesus replied

“Why were you searching for me?” he asked. “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?” Luke 2 v49-50

and Mary didn’t say a word and the bible said Joseph and Mary didn’t understand. What if she understood? My guess is that she would probably remember or understood without puzzling he was the Son of God? Probably she can relate this incident to what she had experienced. Let’s think this way, if we were Mary (no matter you are male or female, come on 🙂 ) and we experienced Luke 1:26-38 at their time, can we fully believe what we were experiencing? For me, I would probably doubt if I was in some kinds of mental disorders. As the story continues to unfold in Luke 1 v39 and beyond, Mary may get a bit more understanding, probably until Jesus was hanged on the cross, incinerated and resurrected she got the full picture what’s meant by the Son of God and the Savior.

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the work and effort of Mr. Benner to integrate psychology, personal growth and Christian spirituality. The Gift of Being Yourself also gives insights and reflections along the way I read it and I would recommend it, but just that there was a few points that I have some doubts and need further research.

TheGiftofBeingYourself

Limit & Guidance

But a lot of ways has closed behind me, and that’s had the same guiding effect… there is as much guidance in what does not and cannot happen in my life as there is in what can and does – maybe more.”

“… I was raised in a subculture that insisted I could do anything I wanted to do, be anything I wanted to be, if I were willing to make the effort.”

“My troubles began, of course, when I started to slam into my limitations, especially in the form of failure”

“If you are like me and don’t readily admit your limits, embarrassment may be the only way to get your attention… finally, I may forced to face my nature and find out whether I can make something of both my gifts and my limitations.”

(Ch3 When Way Closes @ Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation – Parker J. Palmer)

Thinking of my way forward… I can’t accept not trying but pushing brutally also harms and result in failures. There are limits, accepting them requires self-acceptance.

Somehow, there may be chances to get through them sometime in the future. If that can be breaking through, I learn to see them as opportunities to growth. If that can’t, I learn to accept it as part of my imperfect self, learn to forget the way closed and to take ways still opens.

開學

明天開學,最後我都係無乜放時間去學倉頡…

呢幾個月其實都無做過d乜,亦都提唔起勁做d乜,開頭都有d唔安樂想逼自己做d野,到依家唔再逼自己。得聞既時間,係屋企付近散下步,林下野,好似林通左一d野

Sometimes you Win, Sometimes you Learn (from failures)

有d野

有d野,未必話好鐘意,但係要有。
有d野,以為得到就會開心,但係差唔多得到gei 時候,其實開心都只不過係果一霎那,同埋都唔係真係今開心。得到會好開心只係一種煙幕。
有d野,覺得自己唔希罕,亦都無需要。其實唔係唔想要,只不過係攪黎攪去都係得個吉,同埋真係唔知點攪。
或者唔係唔知,係唔敢。
又或者真係唔識,但係又付唔起亂衝亂揰gei 代價。

旅程 (2)

possibility

唔夠一個月就考試喇,時間真係過得好快。星期六日過得好快。星期二三四都過得好快,嘢好似做黎做去都做唔完,不停今去追 deadline,一個又一個,沒完沒了。當然我亦都明白此乃常態啦…

今日搭車時在 Facebook 看見一篇講港人移居台灣的文章 (link)。看了四份一,原因不外乎機會同自由。而最吸引我的還是「完夢」一詞。就係為咗完夢,就隻身到臺灣重新開始、適應,什至去進修,由唔係太識到識。其實都唔簡單。

令人想放棄的就係果條漫漫長路,一年,兩年,唔知幾多年先有 d 嘢睇下。但係唔行出果一步,唔去堅持,到最後想要嘅野都只不過係白日夢一個。都只可以眼望望,原地踏步。其實,問心果句,有邊個想丫。我都希望可以識多d,大擔d,將來多d 可能…

 

Diagram courtesy to http://mortalmind.com/mortal-mind-les-brown-i-am-going-to-make-it/